The courage to be Disliked

Author – Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi

Date Started – 11 July 2022

Data Finished – 27 July 2022

The Book in 3 Sentences

  1. The book delves into the significance of personal responsibility, freedom, and self-acceptance in achieving a fulfilling life.
  2. The book highlights that people have the power to change their perspectives and reactions, enabling them to escape the victim mentality. It emphasizes the importance of living in the present rather than being weighed down by past traumas.
  3. The book can be summarised
    Personal Choice: Happiness results from choices made rather than external circumstances. Overcoming Assumptions: Unhappiness stems from our assumptions about others’ judgments.
    Living in the Present: Focusing on the present leads to a more fulfilling life. Relationships: Healthy relationships come from self-improvement, not trying to change others.
    Detachment from Past: Escaping past traumas is possible by embracing the present.

How the Book Changed Me

The book offers a refreshing perspective: it’s perfectly acceptable to be disliked. This is a topic rarely addressed, as our focus tends to revolve around seeking affection and approval from others.

My Top 3 Quotes

  • “The courage to be happy also includes the courage to be disliked.”
  • “Time is infinite; we are the ones who are limited.”
  • “Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.”

Who should read it

This book is ideal for individuals seeking personal growth, empowerment, and a fresh perspective on happiness. It’s valuable for anyone struggling with self-acceptance and desiring fulfilling relationships.

Summary + Notes

  1. The Courage to Be Happy
  2. The Courage to Be Respected
  3. The Courage to Be Free
  4. The Courage to Be Real
  5. The Courage to Be Unhappy